{"id":10178,"date":"2026-01-17T12:40:20","date_gmt":"2026-01-17T12:40:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mytalkindia.com\/?p=10178"},"modified":"2026-03-13T21:02:30","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T21:02:30","slug":"how-to-deal-with-parents-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mytalkindia.com\/hi\/how-to-deal-with-parents-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal With Parents Divorce \u2013 I Feel It\u2019s My Fault. Can\u2019t They Just Get Along and Be Happy?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"10178\" class=\"elementor elementor-10178\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-213cc950 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"213cc950\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-16ebaeb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"16ebaeb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Question :<\/strong> <b>How to Deal With Parents Divorce? I Feel It\u2019s My Fault. Can\u2019t They Just Get Along and Be Happy? My parents told me that they are getting divorced. My mother will go live with my Nani and Nana in their house, and I will live two weeks with my father, two weeks with my mother. I knew my parents had problems, but doesn\u2019t everyone have problems? Why do they have to have a divorce? And they\u2019ve said that it isn\u2019t to do with me, but I don\u2019t believe them \u2013 some of their fights had to do with my tuition fees. Now I\u2019ll be the \u201ckid with the divorced parents\u201d and that\u2019s so humiliating and shameful. Why can\u2019t they just get along and we can be a happy family again.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Dear MyTalker,<\/p>\n<p>It sucks that your parents are going through a divorce \u2013 divorces are never easy for anyone involved. You sound like a really self-aware teen and I\u2019m glad that you\u2019re seeking answers to your questions during this confusing time. Let\u2019s focus on two things: One, how your parents\u2019 divorce has little, if anything, to do with you, Two, what you can do to manage the disturbance to your family life and routine.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4>How to deal with parents divorce? Here are some steps you can take:<\/h4>\n<p><\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Divorces are never easy and clean, and give yourself time and space to feel angry with your parents \u2013 you could write about your anger, or listen to angry music.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>Repeat this to yourself several times a day: as much as it feels like it is, the divorce is not my fault. It is a decision two grown up people have made between themselves because their relationship was making them feel sadder than happier, and they feel that in the long-term they will be happier without the marriage.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>Challenge your idea of a happy family. A happy family can mean many things: it could mean a divorced couple with a child, all of whom are happier now than before when there was constant fighting and tension at home.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>Talk to a trusted friend, family member or teacher who can support you, offer you guidance or comfort or distract you.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>You are absolutely spot on when you say that everyone has problems \u2013 all relationships and marriages have their fair share of issues, and sometimes we can deal with them. Other times though, the problems become too big. They crowd out any chance for happiness or joy and this is when we feel that taking a drastic step like a divorce is necessary. Parents usually spend a long time weighing the pros and cons of separating, and many often stay together for as long as they do because they have a kid \u2013 as you\u2019ve observed, your parents\u2019 fights started a long time ago but they\u2019ve only just decided to separate.<\/p>\n<p>It sounds like you\u2019re blaming yourself. This is because we tend to internalize the idea from childhood that something bad or wrong equals something that we have caused, even though in this case it is simply not true. Do you think you can speak to your parents individually about this?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I know you\u2019re probably angry with them because being the \u201ckid with the divorced parents\u201d isn\u2019t an easy thing. You\u2019ve called it humiliating and shameful \u2013 certainly in some societies divorce is viewed with shame. But divorce can also be a really freeing choice \u2013 a chance to move away from unhappiness and a chance to build a new beginning. I wonder if we could also challenge the idea of a \u201chappy family\u201d. The idea of the \u201chappy family\u201d is sometimes a mask for what is really a very unhappy family \u2013 parents who don\u2019t get along, and a kid who grows up in a tense environment. That\u2019s really stressful to live with constantly. And at the same time, many families that have only a mother or a father living with their child can be very happy family. I\u2019m not saying that having divorced parents is suddenly going to make everyone happy \u2013 it takes time for a new beginning and to find freedom \u2013 but it may be a less stressful, tense and happy environment than it was before. What do you think?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m concerned that you\u2019re processing your parents\u2019 divorce all alone. Could you think of one friend, teacher or family member who you can discuss it with? Sometimes reading online about teens who\u2019ve been through similar situations can be extremely supportive.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Hope this helps, if you have any other query do <a href=\"https:\/\/mytalkindia.com\/hi\/contact-us\/\">connect online for chat <\/a>between 8 am &#8211; 8 pm.<\/p>\n<p>Regards,<\/p>\n<p>Expert MyTalk India<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:html --><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question : How to Deal With Parents Divorce? I Feel It\u2019s My Fault. Can\u2019t They Just Get Along and Be Happy? My parents told me that they are getting divorced. 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