{"id":10179,"date":"2026-01-17T12:40:39","date_gmt":"2026-01-17T12:40:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mytalkindia.com\/?p=10179"},"modified":"2026-03-13T21:14:42","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T21:14:42","slug":"relationship-boundaries-say-no-in-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mytalkindia.com\/hi\/relationship-boundaries-say-no-in-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Boundaries. My Boyfriend Wants to Get Physical and I Don\u2019t Feel Ready | How to Say No in a Relationship."},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"10179\" class=\"elementor elementor-10179\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-20f08bc0 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"20f08bc0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5fd3905d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5fd3905d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Question :<\/strong>\u00a0<b>Relationship Boundaries? My Boyfriend Wants to Get Physical and I Don\u2019t Feel Ready. How to Say No in a Relationship. I\u2019ve been dating this guy for a month. He\u2019s popular and cool.. I like him but he wants to get more physical and I don\u2019t feel ready for that. We made out a couple of times and I feel uncomfortable when he touches my body. I feel like there\u2019s something wrong with me because my friends have gone to third base and I feel weird about it.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Dear MyTalker,<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s think about ice-cream for a minute. You like ice-cream. But you only like it in the summer. It\u2019s now winter, and your boyfriend is eating ice-cream, and trying to force you to have some. But you don\u2019t want it! You said no! Imagine if after you\u2019ve said no, your boyfriend takes a spoon of ice-cream and forces it into your mouth. Isn\u2019t that basic disrespect and disregard for your choices?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Why is the ice-cream situation any different from this one? I\u2019m not going to tiptoe around this, because it\u2019s clear what the heart of the matter is: consent, consent, consent!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4><span data-start=\"22\" data-end=\"57\">Relationship Boundaries.<\/span> Here are a few active steps you can take to help yourself:<\/h4>\n<p><\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Your body, your rules \u2013 you decide who can touch you, where they can touch you, when they can touch you and why they can touch you.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>You always have the right to change your mind, even mid-way.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>Not now, maybe, and maybe later mean NO.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>If you don\u2019t want to, you don\u2019t have to.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>Tell your boyfriend about consent.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>Have a plan in place for if boundaries get crossed \u2013 leave, ask him to leave.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Read on to understand how you can do the above.<\/p>\n<p>I want you to know (and chant to yourself everyday!)\u00a0 \u2013 your body, your rules. Regardless of the reasons behind your discomfort, the fact is that what you want to say is NO. And when you say no, or indicate it through your body language, your facial expressions, your tone of voice, nobody has the right to touch you in the way you do not want. Anyone who ignores your request for your boundaries and continues (\u201ccome on yaar, everyone does it, you\u2019re my girlfriend, it\u2019ll feel good\u201d), is, and I\u2019m going to say this even though it sounds extreme, guilty of abuse.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So how do you make all of this clear to your boyfriend?<\/p>\n<p>One \u2013 tell him that you don\u2019t like it when he touches you. Tell him that you need to go at a slower pace because it\u2019s making you feel guilty and not enjoy anything. Just because you have consented to kissing doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re okay with anything else.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Two \u2013 have a plan in place for how you\u2019ll respond if he crosses the lines you\u2019ve set. You always have the right to change your mind, even in the middle of any physical activity. If the lines get crossed, you could get up and leave, maybe you could ask him to leave. If he repeats the attempts, you might want to think about why you need to be with someone who isn\u2019t respecting your choices. Basic respect starts early!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So while that\u2019s sinking in, let\u2019s take a moment to think about why you like this boy. Is it because he&#8217;s popular\/seems cool to others, or is it because you feel connected and attracted to him? Are you into this person, or are you telling yourself to be into him because you \u201cshould be\u201d?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Hope this helps, if you have any other query do <a href=\"https:\/\/mytalkindia.com\/hi\/contact-us\/\">connect online for chat<\/a> between 8 am &#8211; 8 pm.<\/p>\n<p>Regards,<\/p>\n<p>Expert MyTalk India<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:html --><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question :\u00a0Relationship Boundaries? My Boyfriend Wants to Get Physical and I Don\u2019t Feel Ready. How to Say No in a Relationship. I\u2019ve been dating this guy for a month. He\u2019s popular and cool.. I like him but he wants to get more physical and I don\u2019t feel ready for that. 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